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What can I do?

Yesterday, someone left a message on my phone saying I was a bad friend and that she didn't know why she was ever friends with me. This was after I said I couldn't go to a certain place with her. I just really don't know how to deal with her situation, I do care but I can't handle it. I don't even know how to handle lots of things in my own life. All I can do is talk with her but that's it.

But being shouted at and called a bad friend in a voice message is really hurtful, as well as being told that I never cared. I can't believe I started to cry. But maybe she's right cause I can be pretty selfish sometimes, and I probably deserved that. I wish I was a better friend to everyone.

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phaidra
Apr. 30th, 2011 09:48 pm (UTC)
Oh no! Yunie-chan, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. *hugs*

I don't know the situation, but I don't think it's right to call you a bad friend just because you can't go somewhere with someone. You didn't deserve that at all.

I think you're a wonderful friend, and I ♥ you very much.

jayofchaos
Apr. 30th, 2011 10:38 pm (UTC)
Thank you! I needed the virtual hug! *hugs back*

I sort of am unsure whether I should talk about it and I feel bad but, basically a "friend" of mine was feeling sort of suicidal, and she wanted me to go to the emergency room with her when it wasn't a very serious health problem, but I couldn't go with her. I know that makes me a horrible person but I think that she would just keep clinging to me and doing it again and I can't really help her. I don't really know how to handle her situation. I'm really sorry to talk about depressing things, but I had to let it out.

Thank you!!! Phai-chan has made me feel better even though I don't think I deserve such kind words. <3

<3<3<3
phaidra
May. 1st, 2011 05:37 am (UTC)
I wish I could give you a real hug, too, but I guess I'll just have to settle with virtual hugs. *hugs*

While I feel bad for your friend, it's not your responsibility to help her to the detriment of your own well being. I think a true friend would understand that you have your own problems to deal with, too, and that you've tried to help her to the best of your ability. Like Natsu-chan says, you shouldn't have to cater to her every will and command in order for her to consider you a "good friend."

I'm glad that I've been able to help you feel better, even just a little bit. You deserve every kind word that I have said, because you're a wonderful, caring, person and a marvelous friend. Anyone who doesn't recognize that is just stupid.

jayofchaos
May. 1st, 2011 07:56 am (UTC)
Me too, but better than no hugs. *glomps*

I appreciate the advice, cause it's hard to know what to do in these types of situations. But I'm very lucky to have you guys as friends. :)

Awww! Thank you!! Phai-chan's words actually make me feel very happy! <3 Phai-chan seems to have a way with words. :D

<3
phaidra
May. 2nd, 2011 05:17 am (UTC)
Yes, quite true, internet hugs are better than no hugs!

It sounds like an awful situation, and I'm sorry you have found yourself in it. *hugs* I wish I could do more to help, but at least my advice is sort of useful.

I'm glad that I could cheer you up a bit! It makes Phai-chan sad when Yunie-chan is sad.

jayofchaos
May. 2nd, 2011 06:07 am (UTC)
We'll just have to give more real hugs the next time we see each other. *nods*

Unfortunetly it may be one of the not so great parts of life. *sighs* Hopefully it will turn out ok. But I think your advice was better than "sort of useful" for sure. Thank you!! Just being able to talk about the situation helps a lot.

You really cheered me up a lot!*nods* And I don't want Phai-chan to be sad either.*shakes head* That would be bad.

I keep forgetting to say that I really like all of your choices of pretty icons that you've been using. Very nice. :D

<3
phaidra
May. 2nd, 2011 06:07 pm (UTC)
Yes, definitely!

I hope it'll turn out okay too! Life sometimes sucks like that, but it generally gets better eventually. And I'm glad my advice was useful. ^^

Good! I'm glad that I was able to cheer you up. *hugs*

Why thank you!

ladyluckx3
May. 1st, 2011 03:15 am (UTC)
I hardly think not going with someone somewhere makes you bad friend. If anything, I think it makes the other person a bad friend for expecting you to be cater to their every will and command.
I hope whoever it is comes to their senses ; w ;
jayofchaos
May. 1st, 2011 03:44 am (UTC)
It's like you said with the catering to her every will and cries for attention when I can't help her. I can't be her therapist yet she expects me to, and I do feel bad about it.
I hope so too but knowing her that probably won't happen.
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